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A few weeks ago I wrote a blog post entitled My Naija Life Pt. 5 – Dating. In this post I discussed my life in Nigeria and the lack of my dating life and then the beginning of my dating life.
I really didn’t expect much out of this dating scene that I decided to join. Honestly, I’m not a serial dater or a dater period. I grew up in a household were dating was done after High School. I know that some of you are reading that and thinking that my parents were strict. However, I really wasn’t interested in dating. See…
- I was dually enrolled in High School and College. This meant that I didn’t have time to “date”. Yes, I was asked out, but my weekends were busy with studying and
- I had a job. I’ve been gainfully employed since I was 15 years old. So that means even when I reached the “dating age”, whatever that means, I was working.
Now please keep in mind that I did go out, but I went out in groups with my peers. So yes, I did dinners and movies and such but it was a group of us.
When I did have a boyfriend I was getting ready to go off to university. So my FIRST relationship was long distance and did not work out.
Thinking about it, MOST of my relationships have been LDR (long distance relationships). See.. writing this, is now getting me to thinking. I kinda like LDR…
- did I mention space already?
Now being international I’ve had a ILDR….boy did THAT not turn out well. Anywho, let’s get to the topic at hand.
So Naija Bae and I met up for drinks. He called that Sunday night that we met at the Mobay’s Event to make sure that I got home alright. So we make plans to connect the following evening for drinks.
It was actually quite lovely. The conversation was flowing and so were the drinks. We talked about our childhoods and how we grew up. This in when he told me he was Jehovah Witness.
Once he said that I smiled, but laughed on the inside. I grew up around, went to high school with, and even had friends who are/were JW. I knew that this “date” could only go so far! HEEEEEEY…get your head out of the gutter. What I mean is that according to their beliefs…
“Christians who want to marry are commanded to choose only a fellow believer. (1 Corinthians 7:39) Jehovah’s Witnesses view this command as referring not merely to a person who respects our beliefs but to one who shares and practices those beliefs as a baptized Witness. (2 Corinthians 6:14) God has always directed his worshippers to marry only those of the same faith. (Genesis 24:3; Malachi 2:11) This command is also practical, as modern researchers have found. (read here)” also
“The heart, or inner person, is treacherous. (Jeremiah 17:9) It can lead a person to do things that he knows are wrong. To prevent their hearts from misleading them, couples who are dating can avoid being alone in tempting situations. They may choose to take such reasonable precautions as staying in the company of a wholesome group or a suitable chaperone. (Proverbs 28:26) Single Christians who are looking for a marriage mate recognize the risks of online dating sites, especially the risk of developing a relationship with a person whom one knows very little about.—Psalm 26:4.”
So me, I didn’t get my hopes up. I knew that if there were to be any other dates, that EVENTUALLY the topic of converting would come up. This is something that would not be happening for me.
So the date ended. NB walked me to my car and promised to call to make sure I got home safely.
to be continued…