Welcome to my journey of dating abroad, something new that I started to do. If you’re just starting to read my saga you may want to begin with Dating Abroad Pt. 1, Dating Abroad Pt. 2, Dating Abroad Pt. 3, Dating Abroad Pt. 4, and Dating Abroad Pt. 5.
So, you have joined me on my dating journey while in Nigeria. I can say that it has been an adventure.
I’ve had online chats, offline chats, good conversations, not so good conversations, and enough dates to last me a good while. Keep in mind when I say when I say “enough dates to last me a good while” does NOT mean that I went on a lot of dates, just enough for me.
It seems as if dating has gotten quite difficult. *thinking* It’s not as if it was easy. I remember as a preteen reading the “Sweet Valley High” series and I just KNEW that when I got to secondary school I was going to be asked out and have dates on Saturday night, just like the characters in the books.
Boy was I wrong…
Can you imagine returning from living abroad for just a month or so to here, “Why are you still single?” or “When are you moving back home? Don’t you want to settle down?” Honestly, I used to answer this question very nicely because most of the questions were coming from church people. Now my answers have been, which I’ve answered so many times in so many tones, “Just haven’t met the right guy, I guess!” or “I don’t know. Why are you still married?” or one time I even stated, “Well I’d rather take my time and not rush into a marriage and be bitter only to get a divorce.”
When you think about it, some people simply have a harder time than others meeting people and dating.
Dating requires stamina. Dating requires time.
And as a single person, one is tired of hearing “It’ll happen when you stop looking.” “There are a million fish in the sea.” “Don’t be so picky.”
In the end, it is what it is. Just like everything else in life, dating requires work. Because no matter the age, dating will always be a tad be difficult until you’re with the right person for you and even then, it’s still work.